Spinster-in-Training

My pronouns are John/Jacob/Jingleheimer Schmidt

lotofwater:

Sexism is a social disease. Our disease.

lotofwater:

Sexism is a social disease.
Our disease.

(via respexual)

tamorapierce:

problackgirl:

Don’t date men who disrespect women, doesn’t matter if he’s nice to you. If he’s constantly disrespecting other women, nah.

If he’s constantly disrespecting other women, he’ll get around to you sooner or later.

(via respexual)

unfrickable:

do not sexualize young girls.
yes, I am kink shaming you. 
because you should be ashamed of yourself
for sexualizing young girls, and
no one’s sexual liberation is more important
than protecting young girls.

(via hedonisticparadise)

Havelock Ellis was especially significant in the development of these sexological ideas about women’s appropriate role in heterosexuality (Jackson, 1994). Indeed, many of his assumptions about human sexuality, including the understanding that heterosexuality and coitus are underpinned by biological imperatives, can still be found in more modern sexological literature (D’Emilio & Freedman, 1988; Jackson, 1987; Nicolson, 1993).

As a result of his conviction that coitus was a “natural” act, those lacking the biological urge to participate in it were deemed by Ellis to be “abnormal” and most likely adversely affected by the “distortions of modern society” (Weeks, 1989). Ellis then used this theory of social distortion to explain women’s common disinterest in coitus (he had found in his own research that significant numbers of women displayed an aversion to coitus). He did not feel that women’s disinterest was natural or inevitable, but rather a conditioned response which could and should be overcome. Under this new sexological model, women who disliked coitus became labelled as abnormal.

By the 1920s, the concept of the frigid woman had become highly influential within the discipline of sexology and frigidity was the dominant way that women’s disinterest in coitus was understood (Jeffreys, 1990). As the concept of the frigid woman became a staple of sexological literature, it also entered popular consciousness (Jackson, 1994). The consolidation of the sexological model was accompanied by claims that the illness of frigidity was rampant amongst the female population: “From the 1920s through to the 1940s, medical reports estimate that frigidity afflicted anywhere from 25 percent to 75 percent of American women” (Hoberman, 2005, p. 89). Through the deployment of this concept of frigidity, sexology, in its foundational years, began to define the majority of women as fundamentally sexually abnormal.

Feminist theorists have since suggested, however, that the concept of the frigid woman served as a powerful tool of social control which effectively pressured women into “adjusting themselves to men’s sexual behaviour…” (Jeffreys, 1985, p. 164).

Indeed, Margaret Jackson (1994) argues that far from promoting women’s sexual rights, the sexological model of sexuality pioneered by Ellis and his contemporaries tended to function as a way to coerce women into heterosexuality and marriage. Furthermore, the notion of the frigid woman served to restrict women’s ability to choose whether or not to engage in coitus. Rather than being seen as a decision not to participate, refusal of coitus became an illness.

—   Meagan Tyler, Selling Sex Short: The Pornographic and Sexological Construction of Women’s Sexuality in the West, 2011. (via insufficientmind)

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womensliberationfront:

Liberal vs. Radical Feminism on gender, in a nutshell.

In her book, “Against Our Will”, Susan Brownmiller has a chapter where she looks at what happens to men who are raped in prison. The answer: they often become “feminine” - masochistic, “soft”, delicate etc.

Femininity is internalized abuse. It is the psychology and disposition of a masochist. It is ritualized submission.

It is seen as clearly pathological and unhealthy when manifested in men - those human beings who matter, who are entitled to real dignity. When manifested in women, it is considered “natural” - a reflection of what women really, innately are.

Abolish gender. Women and girls deserve nothing less.

(via hedonisticparadise)

It is difficult to be sat on all day, every day, by some other creature, without forming an opinion on them.

On the other hand, it is perfectly possible to sit all day, every day, on top of another creature and not have the slightest thought about them whatsoever.

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Douglas Adams

this quote was literally in my sociology book 

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jettgrrrl:

Gender non conforming women are not men, they do not need to transition into men just because they do not fit the expectations of “woman”.

(via respexual)

“Women are workers, as well as the means of reproduction. Lower-class women are especially likely to do hard physical labor. So the problem becomes: How to make sure female strength is used for work but not for rebellion? The answer is: Make women ashamed of it. Though hard work requires lower-class women to be stronger than their upper-class sisters, for example, those strong women are made to envy and imitate the weakness of women who “belong” to, and are the means of reproduction for upper-class men — and so must be kept even more physically restricted if the lines of race and inheritance are to be kept “pure.””

The Light in Her Eyes (2011)

(Source: slumkitty, via knightwitch)

“[WARNING: discussion of male sexual coercion, attempts to “correct” lesbian sexuality]

The unpublished memoirs of Floyd Dell, who became [Edna St. Vincent] Millay’s first male lover in Greenwich Village, give some insight into how women who came to the Village as lesbians were sometimes steered toward heterosexuality in this “progressive” atmosphere. For weeks Millay had agreed to go to bed with Dell, since she was taught in the Village that free bohemian women should have no scruples against such things; but she was obviously ambivalent, insisting they remain fully clothed and refusing to have intercourse. Finally Dell pressured her sufficiently to make her overcome her reluctance. “I know your secret,” he said. “You are still a virgin. You have merely had homosexual affairs with girls in college,” devaluing such relationships as a mature sexual experience. Dell claims that Millay was astonished at his deductive powers and she admitted, “No man has ever found me out before.” In her chagrin she gave in to him. Dell’s memoirs indicate that he was one of the early lesbian-smashers. He says he made love to her, feeling that it was his “duty to rescue her.” His rescue was obviously imperfect, however, since she was still having affairs with women years later when she took up with Thelma Wood, the woman who also became Djuna Barnes’ lover and her model for Robin in Nightwood. Dell finally had to admit with disappointment that Millay could not be entirely rescued. Years after their relationship, he lamented in an interview, “It was impossible to understand [Millay]… . I’ve often thought she may have been fonder of women than of men.” But despite this cognizance of her feelings about women he believed he had right on his side when he proselytized for heterosexuality, and he was encouraged in his conviction by the bohemians who scoffed at the technical virginity of women whose erotic lives were exclusively with other women.

Dell even urged Millay to undergo psychoanalysis in order to “overcome” her interest in women, although she thought analysis silly and, with a feminist awareness developed in her all-women college environment, saw Freudian ideas as nothing but “a Teutonic attempt to lock women up in the home and restore them to cooking and baby-tending.” Yet despite her various attempts to resist, she appears to have succumbed to the pressure. She married, although it was to a man who, she claimed, left her relatively free to behave as she pleased. She said of her life with her husband that they “lived like two bachelors.” But to have chosen to live as a lesbian, even in the world of Greenwich Village, was too problematic for her, despite her history of love for other women.”

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Lillian Faderman, Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America (via jeanralphiovaljean)

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